Becoming a Mom Through Egg Donation: 5 Ways You’ll Influence Your Baby
Today, on Redhead Mom, I’m sharing a guest post about becoming a mom through
egg donation in partnership with Donor Egg Bank USA.
No one imagines they aren’t going to conceive naturally, or that traditional in vitro fertilization (IVF) may not be the right fertility solution they need.
From age-related complications to cancer treatments, there are many reasons why women may not be able to conceive a baby naturally or use their own eggs during IVF treatment.
Thankfully, with help from knowledgeable professionals, there may be a route that suits your unique circumstances: egg donation may be the ray of hope you’ve been looking for. Yet, this option can sometimes leave women feeling disconnected from their own body, or afraid of what kind of bond they’ll have with their baby.
Below, we look at five wonderful ways you’ll be able to influence your baby when using donor eggs to conceive—and how these influences will help you build an irrevocable bond.
1. You Choose Who Your Egg Donor Will Be
With access to a vast amount of information on diverse egg donors available nationwide and internationally, you can take your time to find someone who feels like the perfect match for you and your family.
From specific details like hair and eye color to general information about their career and life achievements, you can ‘get to know’ your donor before selecting them.
Or, if someone close to you has offered their help, this can provide a more intimate connection between both parties. However, it’s wise to consider how egg donation will impact the future of you and your child’s relationships with your known egg donor.
2. You Carry and Give Birth to Your Baby
Unlike other options, i.e. adoption or surrogacy, egg donation gives you the wonderful opportunity to carry and give birth to your baby. This unique experience helps establish a mother-child bond like no other. Feeling their first kick, watching them grow, and talking to them while in utero can all help build the same connection any mother feels with their child.
3. You Start Nurturing Your Baby from the Moment They’re in Your Womb
Your pregnancy is not only a time for creating unique bonds, but also a time when you’ll influence your baby through your lifestyle choices.
A number of factors can have an effect on your baby while they’re in your womb, including the foods you eat, the exercise you enjoy, and the stress you experience.
In particular, high levels of stress can have a concerning effect on your baby – and you. There are many ways to manage your stress, including various relaxation techniques like yoga, meditation, counseling, or simply enjoying time for yourself or with family and friends.
If you’re relatively stress-free, there are other ways you can positively influence your baby while they grow inside you. Talking to your child, singing to them, or playing music can all contribute to creating a great environment for mom and baby during pregnancy.
4. You Influence the Expression of Your Baby’s Genes
While your genes aren’t directly passed on to your baby when you use an egg donor, you can and do influence their genetic expression.
Throughout your pregnancy, MicroRNAs are released within the womb and control how your baby’s genes are expressed. While no mother – regardless of whether they’re genetically related or not – can guarantee their baby’s features and characteristics, every mom influences how their baby’s genes develop.
5. You Are Mom from Day One
Some women considering donor eggs struggle with the idea that they won’t feel like a ‘mom’ if they use a donor. However, as we’ve seen above, there’s much more to being a mom than genetics alone.
From how you care for and nurture your baby when you’re pregnant, to the huge role you’ll play in their life as they grow up, there are many different facets to being a mom. By taking careful consideration of your lifestyle choices and looking after your baby from the moment they’re conceived, you’ll have an overwhelming positive influence on who your child becomes.
Furthermore, when you hold your baby in your arms for the first time, all those worries and concerns will disappear as you stare into the eyes of your beautiful baby boy or girl. You are now ‘Mom’ forever and no one can take that away from you.