Finding Love After Divorce

By Shannon Gurnee
In Lifestyle
October 12, 2013

When I got married the first time, I imagined being married forever.  I imagined the day I would celebrate my 50th wedding anniversary, just as my grandparents did when I was a young girl.  But after almost 11 years of marriage, that dream was gone.  I would not see an 11th wedding anniversary…yet alone a 50th.

Divorce left me feeling bitter, sad and without hope for a happy relationship in the future.  When I saw others getting married, I said to myself one of two things – (1) “They’d better start saving now for their divorce,” or (2) “Just wait until they really get to know each other.  It won’t last!”

After my divorce, I also found that my self-confidence was extremely low.  I believed that I was broken…that I was damaged…that I had baggage that no one could or would want to deal with in a relationship.  It took me quite some time to realize I was wrong!!! Of course, no one wants to get divorced but certain circumstances make filing for divorce with the help of a family law attorney the most viable option. Make sure to find an experienced divorce lawyer or family law attorney to help guide you with legal processes of divorce.

Holding hands

I dated quite a few jerks as a single woman, but then I met him.  I met a man who loved his children and wanted to spend as much time with them as possible.  A man who thought I was beautiful and smart and that he was lucky to have found me.  A man who loves my kids as if they were his own.  A man who puts my wants and needs above his own just to see me happy.  A man I never imagined seeing myself with.  A man who is my best friend.

My main purpose of this post is not to gush over my boyfriend or to say my life is perfect, but to let you know that finding love after divorce IS possible and probable.  My advice is to figure out who you are, what you like, and what you want out of life.  Don’t go looking for it because that’s when you’ll find it.  And lastly, be patient.  Yes – I just said to be patient (one of my major flaws and something I’m still working on).

I know from my personal experience that it is possible to find love after divorce.

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Shannon Gurnee is the author of Redhead Mom formerly "The Mommy-Files", a national blog with a loyal following. She has a Bachelor's Degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development with a Minor in Business Management. Shannon and her husband, Frank, have a large family with 6 awesome kids and love living on the Central Coast near San Luis Obispo, California, as well as traveling around the world. A full-time Social Media and Professional Blogger, Shannon also serves as a National Brand Ambassador for many well-known companies. Her blog focuses on motherhood, family fun activities, traveling, fashion, beauty, technology, wedding ideas and recipes while providing professional opinions on products, performances, restaurants, and a variety of businesses.

17 Responses to “Finding Love After Divorce”

  1. Cindy Brooks says:

    Agreed and so happy for you! I found my love after a horrible marriage and nasty divorce. We will be celebrating our 20th anniversary on October 22nd 🙂

  2. Caroline Hileman-Schaffer says:

    Thank you for sharing. I know it’s easy to go down the pitty party or angry road, but I’m happy to hear that you’ve allowed yourself to be vulnerable enough to fall in love again & be loved. Very happy for the both of you!

    • Shannon Gosney says:

      Thanks Caroline! Thanks for helping to boost me up in those times that were really hard to get through. 🙂

  3. I see your posts on Facebook with regards to your boyfriend and your guys’ kids and I’m just so VERY happy for you Shannon! Truly, you’re a beautiful, smart, successful woman that deserves someone who truly appreciates you and it sounds like you really found that 🙂

    • Shannon Gosney says:

      Thanks so much Kayla! Isn’t amazing how much has happened in the past few years. 🙂 You are one of those virtual friends who helped to lift me up when I was feeling down. Thank you.

  4. Debra says:

    Glad that you were able to move on and make a new life and even be willing to try finding love again. Good for you and enjoy every minute of it!

  5. Greta says:

    I’m so glad that you two found each other! Your updates on FB make me laugh

  6. Jen says:

    So happy to hear that you have found your love. I love a happy ending 😉

  7. I’m so happy for you – everyone deserves to find that person that makes them feel special, loved, and one of a kind. Congratulations to you – and have fun!

  8. I’m so glad you were able to find love again! Everyone deserves their happily ever after.

  9. It maybe hard at first but at least you moved on. Thanks for sharing your experienced.

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