Creating a Happy Home
I love going to MOPS. I have only been a few times, but both times I have walked away with knowledge that has improved our family life, even if only in a tiny way. We recently had a speaker talking about including Dad in the home and how we can become more unified with our husbands.
For example, when my husband comes home, what do I do? Do I greet him with a hug and a kiss? Do I continue doing the dishes or cooking dinner? Do I vent to him about how stressful and long my day has been and brief him on the status of our 3 boys? The real question is “What should I do?” When George comes home, I should stop what I am doing and greet him, whether it’s with a “hello,” a hug, a kiss, or all three. My parents have encouraged me to do that as well. When he comes home and I greet him, it gives him a feeling of belonging and appreciation. It’s okay to tell him about my day and how the kids are, but not until he has had a chance to unwind a little.
At the meeting we also talked about how dads can create a happy spirit in the home. It is extremely beneficial to the family to have dad (or mom) say out loud, “I’m so glad to be a part of this family” or “I’m so glad you are a part of our family” or “I’m so glad to have you as my son.” I tried this with my boys yesterday. I was exhausted and frustrated. I was trying to clean the house and EVERY time I turned around there was another mess. After a while, I went up to my 3 boys and told them I was so glad to have them in our family and how happy I was to be their moms. You should have seen their faces. Instantaneous smiles formed. I was amazed at what a powerful effect those words would have on them.
It is also very beneficial to have dad say out loud, “You are so lucky to have a mom like her” or “look how beautiful your mom is” or “You are so lucky to have a mom who does so much for you and cares about you so much.” I can tell you that this is my favorite phrase and I love it when my husband says it to me or my kids. It really lifts spirits.
More to come on how to create a happy home. Please note that I do not know everything about creating a happy home, but am in the pursuit of learning how to do so.