Creating a Happy Home

By Shannon Gosney
In Blogging Randomness
January 13, 2010

I love going to MOPS.  I have only been a few times, but both times I have walked away with knowledge that has improved our family life, even if only in a tiny way.  We recently had a speaker talking about including Dad in the home and how we can become more unified with our husbands.

For example, when my husband comes home, what do I do?  Do I greet him with a hug and a kiss?  Do I continue doing the dishes or cooking dinner?  Do I vent to him about how stressful and long my day has been and brief him on the status of our 3 boys?  The real question is “What should I do?”  When George comes home, I should stop what I am doing and greet him, whether it’s with a “hello,” a hug, a kiss, or all three.  My parents have encouraged me to do that as well.  When he comes home and I greet him, it gives him a feeling of belonging and appreciation.  It’s okay to tell him about my day and how the kids are, but not until he has had a chance to unwind a little.

At the meeting we also talked about how dads can create a happy spirit in the home.  It is extremely beneficial to the family to have dad (or mom) say out loud, “I’m so glad to be a part of this family” or “I’m so glad you are a part of our family” or “I’m so glad to have you as my son.”  I tried this with my boys yesterday.  I was exhausted and frustrated.  I was trying to clean the house and EVERY time I turned around there was another mess.  After a while, I went up to my 3 boys and told them I was so glad to have them in our family and how happy I was to be their moms.  You should have seen their faces.  Instantaneous smiles formed.  I was amazed at what a powerful effect those words would have on them.

It is also very beneficial to have dad say out loud, “You are so lucky to have a mom like her” or “look how beautiful your mom is” or “You are so lucky to have a mom who does so much for you and cares about you so much.”  I can tell you that this is my favorite phrase and I love it when my husband says it to me or my kids.  It really lifts spirits.

More to come on how to create a happy home.  Please note that I do not know everything about creating a happy home, but am in the pursuit of learning how to do so.

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Shannon Gurnee is the author of RedheadMom formerly "The Mommy-Files", a national blog with a loyal following. She has a Bachelor's Degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development with a Minor in Business Management. Shannon and her husband, Frank, have a large family with 6 awesome kids and love living on the Central Coast near San Luis Obispo, California, as well as traveling around the world. A full-time Social Media and Professional Blogger, Shannon also serves as a National Brand Ambassador for many well-known companies. Her blog focuses on motherhood, family fun activities, traveling, fashion, beauty, technology, wedding ideas and recipes while providing professional opinions on products, performances, restaurants, and a variety of businesses.

6 Responses to “Creating a Happy Home”

  1. The Gosfam says:

    What a GREAT message. I was just thinking today about when my hubby comes home. I need to RUN to the door and greet him with a kiss 🙂 I am going to work on that.

  2. Amy says:

    Wonderful. I have been interested in joining a MOPS group, but haven’t yet.

  3. Heidi Bokor says:

    I think we take for grantide the moments we have with our families. And I think that sometimes we do not say out loud how much we appreciate our spouses, children, family members, etc. Thanks for sharing this with us.

  4. Michelle says:

    Sounds great, I am going to try this.

  5. The one thing Bill and I always do is greet each other when one of us comes home and say good bye when one of us comes or goes with a big hug and kiss. Ever since the kids were litle when one of us came home we always shouted, “Daddy’s (or Mommy’s) home!” We still do it with the dog since we’ve been doing it for so long…
    It is so true to hear from one of your family members how much you mean to them. I still hear it now and then from my kids. It really does put a smile on your face.
    Thanks for sharing this with us Shannon, it is truly a really important part of family life.

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