What Makes a Good Mother?
Growing up, I loved watching television and some of my favorite television shows were those that featured the “perfect” mother. I’m talking about “The Brady Bunch,” “Leave It To Beaver,” and “The Cosby Show.” You remember those, right? Then there were the television shows with the mothers who were not so perfect, like “Married with Children” and “Roseanne.” As a young girl, I had this idea of what I would be like when I became a mom. I naturally assumed that motherhood would be a piece of cake and I would be a perfect mom!
It was a little different than I thought it would be and I realized that when I gave birth to my first baby boy. Suddenly, I was at the beckon call of this amazing, little person I had made. I would be awake through the night watching reruns of “Friends” while I nursed him to sleep. I would be puked on, peed on,
screamed cried at, and more. I would experience the greatest love and sacrifice I ever had before. And I would be thankful for the opportunity to do it. Then motherhood became a little more challenging with each baby, but the rewards I reaped were also greater. I developed a greater sense of love and a desire to protect my children and give them the most I could. And now as a mother to six, my blessings and feelings of happiness have doubled.
Now, about the “perfect” part. First off, that is a load of bunk. There is NO perfect mother. And if she claims to be, she is either lying or going to be in for a very rude awakening – very soon! I admit there are times when I raise my voice out of frustration or have said things I regretted saying. This doesn’t happen all of the time, but does happen sometimes. And when I have made those mistakes, I apologize to my children. I think overall we are generally harder on ourselves than others are of us. And often times that’s what leads us to feeling like we are failing as mothers. Ladies, you are not a failure. Do you love your children? Do you want the best for them? Do you recognize your mistakes and strive to not make them again? Guess what, that makes you a great mother!!!
I feel like a great mother every time I see my child offer to help another in need. Every time they hug me or say they love me. Every time they say “please” or “thank you.” Every time I tuck them into bed and see how safe and comfortable they feel in our home. I feel like a great mother when I give them the rest of the food off my plate because I know they’re still hungry (even if I’m not quite full yet). I know I am a good mother because I provide for their emotional and physical needs. If my children read this blog post someday, I hope they know how much I want to be the best mom I can be for them and how much I love them. I am so thankful for the blessing of motherhood and the challenges that come with it, leaving me as a stronger, kinder and more nurturing woman.
What makes you a good mother?