How to Show Your Husband You Love Him

By Shannon Gosney
In Blogging Randomness
October 17, 2009

I attended MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) yesterday for the first time.  I loved it and the discussion held really hit home for me.  The key speaker was talking about husbands and how we can show our love to them.  As mothers, we are constantly on the run – whether it’s changing diapers, preparing meals, disciplining kids, doing laundry…well you know what I mean if you are a mom yourself!

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Men and women are very different, as you probably have learned.  Men and women have different ways in which they feel loved.  For women, we feel loved when our man listens to us share our feelings and emotions.  We feel love through verbal communication – some of us also feel love with hugs and kisses (others may feel love with gifts given).

However, men are fairly simple.  They feel loved in one way – sex!  Yep, you got it.  Sometimes as mothers, we may present it more as a chore or duty when our spouse wants to be intimate.  Perhaps it’s because you’re exhausted, hadn’t showered that day, have an upset stomach, who knows?  But men feel loved with sex.  I really didn’t have any idea of this before I attended the discussion.  Don’t get me wrong.  I know that most men like it, but I had no idea this would be how to show my husband I love him (other than keeping the house clean and food coming – not to mention the occasional, ahem, sex toys for a bit of added excitement! lol).

What are your thoughts?

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Shannon Gurnee is the author of RedheadMom formerly "The Mommy-Files", a national blog with a loyal following. She has a Bachelor's Degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development with a Minor in Business Management. Shannon and her husband, Frank, have a large family with 6 awesome kids and love living on the Central Coast near San Luis Obispo, California, as well as traveling around the world. A full-time Social Media and Professional Blogger, Shannon also serves as a National Brand Ambassador for many well-known companies. Her blog focuses on motherhood, family fun activities, traveling, fashion, beauty, technology, wedding ideas and recipes while providing professional opinions on products, performances, restaurants, and a variety of businesses.

8 Responses to “How to Show Your Husband You Love Him”

  1. Caryn B says:

    First of all, I LOVE MOPS….we have one at our church and the discussions are awesome….

    Second…I’ve heard this a lot in church….but my hubby STILL really really appreciates a clean, organized house that makes him feel like something in his life is not in chaos! : )

  2. Courtney Rae Clark says:

    Never attended MOPS.
    Asked my man about love and apparently this is true.

    2 things.
    Very Simple.
    2- making him lunch for work every morning.

    very simple.

  3. In college I majored Marriage, Family and Human Development.
    I heard it this way and always thought it was a accurate statement.

    Women need to feel loved to want sex.
    Men need to have sex to feel loved.

  4. I believe in this husband told me
    when we started to get serious..”as long as we keep it hot in the bedroom ,we can get through anything else”..while some may not believe me we have sex at least 4 times a week (even if it means in the shower on those menstral weeks) and he pretty much puts up with anything I dish out..and I am not easy to tolerate..and he will tell you he knows I am madly in love with him and vice versa

  5. Kris says:

    I definitely believe this. I sometimes read my husband’s magazines and I remember reading this exact thing.
    My husband is in the military and currently deployed so it’s amazing how much our military men and women sacrifice in ways we don’t often think about. Yet another reason to thank our military on this upcoming Veteran’s Day.

  6. Badger Momma says:

    I love that saying by Debbie. So true.

  7. Well, I checked with The Hubs, and this is right. He said the things that I do that show him that I love him are:
    1 ~ sex
    2 ~ make him deliciouse meals
    3 ~ cuddle and spend time with him
    4 ~ help him do things around the house (because he know’s how hard it is for me)

  8. Meghann says:

    I think sex is important for our husbands, and yes, sometimes we forget that in the midst of all of our daily activities, but I also feel that our husbands need our respect to feel loved. If we belittle them and treat them like another one of our children, we aren’t respecting them, and we aren’t loving them. And we can give them all the sex they want, but disrespect their opinions and ideas about life, family, faith, work, etc, and they won’t feel loved.

    And MOPS is great! I love my group.

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