Dealing with Postpartum Depression

By Shannon Gosney
In Uncategorized
September 9, 2008

I have 3 boys – my youngest is almost 4 months old. With my first, I had a little bit of the baby blues, but it wasn’t anything too terrible. With my second, it was the same way. I had family around to help me, I healed up quickly after childbirth, and I lost my “baby fat” in a short amount of time and with relative ease.

However, with my third child, it took me a lot longer to heal, I still haven’t lost the “baby fat,” and I started to suffer from postpartum depression. I didn’t realize that I was going through it (entirely) until I went to my 6 week checkup (at 14 weeks after childbirth).

I was stressed out because I couldn’t keep my house cleaned as much as I wanted to, I struggled to get dinner on the table by a decent time, I felt like a failure as a mom and a wife (all the while having no idea what I was doing wrong). I tended to yell at my older boys more quickly and didn’t want to leave the house – trying to put off the huge event it had become to just go to the grocery store. The days flew by so quickly – I felt like I had accomplished nothing during the day when dinner time came around.

My midwife said my expectations of myself were too high. I had 3 kids and was a busy mom. Sometimes the laundry wouldn’t get done or I might have to order takeout because I didn’t have time to cook a meal. She said I needed to get out more and go to the playgroups. I needed the socialization with other moms. I also needed to realize that I was caring for 3 young children, one of which I nurse every 2 hours or so. Plus I change twice as many dirty diapers as before, which also takes up time. I need to realize that the laundry is going to be never ending because I am washing and drying clothes for 5 people in our house.

I decided it was time for a change. When we had to go to the grocery store (and yes, I take all 3 kids with me), it was only a trip to one store per day, instead of 2 or 3 different stores in a day’s time. I would take my kids to the playgroup the women have at church and socialize with other moms. I would open the blinds first thing in the morning and let the morning light shine in (yes there is still light that comes in when it’s overcast). I would talk to a mentor when I was struggling with the kids or personal issues.

Doing these things has helped me to overcome my short bout with postpartum depression. Being a mom is a hard job, but I am thankful I can do it. It takes a lot of practice, energy, and love. It is the best job I’ve ever had!

About Has 4152 Posts

Shannon Gurnee is the author of RedheadMom formerly "The Mommy-Files", a national blog with a loyal following. She has a Bachelor's Degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development with a Minor in Business Management. Shannon and her husband, Frank, have a large family with 6 awesome kids and love living on the Central Coast near San Luis Obispo, California, as well as traveling around the world. A full-time Social Media and Professional Blogger, Shannon also serves as a National Brand Ambassador for many well-known companies. Her blog focuses on motherhood, family fun activities, traveling, fashion, beauty, technology, wedding ideas and recipes while providing professional opinions on products, performances, restaurants, and a variety of businesses.

2 Responses to “Dealing with Postpartum Depression”

  1. Carrilyne says:

    I totally remember feeling the same way! That was what was hard about three… Suddenly all the things I used to get done during a day never got done. I’ve learned that’s the way it is. I’d rather nurse the baby then clean the bathrooms anyway!:0)

  2. Cristin says:

    Those are really good tips that you offer for getting out of any slump. I try to take a shower first thing in the morning, rather than waiting till the end of the day… it helps me feel better and have more energy.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *