5 Things that Can Make It Difficult for Moms to Take Care of Their Kids

Today, on Redhead Mom, I’m sharing a partnered guest post about 5 Things That Can Make It Difficult for Moms to Take Care of Their Kids.

Becoming a mother always changes your life. The real question is whether those are positive or negative changes. For the most part, you will probably find that there’s a lot more positive about having children than negative.

Once the child or children are there, you’ll have to dedicate a lot of your time to them if you want to be a responsible parent. However, some moms find there are certain conditions or events that make it difficult handle all the tasks by themselves so they prefer to look into finding the best preschool and child care services. When they hire someone for child care, they can focus on their tasks that need finishing while knowing that their children are being taken care of.

Let’s talk about a few of those right now. Maybe some of these apply to you, or perhaps you’re lucky, and none of them do.

Car Wrecks

Car wrecks happen rather often across the country. If you drive for your whole life, the chances are high that you’ll have at least one or two. Maybe they will be your fault, or perhaps another driver will cause them.

If you’re a mom and get in a bad car wreck, you may sustain various injuries. You may be sore after a car accident, and that can last for several weeks or even months. You might have general soreness after a wreck, even if a doctor checks you out and does not diagnose any specific injuries.   

If your kids are still living under your roof, you need to take care of them, and if you’re dealing with car accident injuries, that’s not going to be the easiest thing in the world. How badly the crash hurt you will matter, and also how old your kids are. If you have teenagers, they can care for themselves at least somewhat.

While you recover from the accident, if you live with a spouse or partner, they will probably have to pick up the slack. As you heal, they might do more to prepare meals and drive the kids around. Maybe you can help with homework or anything that’s not too strenuous.

Premenstrual Issues

Some women have relatively easy periods, and some barely experience cramping, bloating, or anything else that sometimes goes along with those several days of the month. Maybe you have a very tough time with PMS, and perhaps you don’t feel physically comfortable during your actual period either.

Women vary quite a bit in this regard. Some are lucky enough to have almost no symptoms, but others find it pretty awful, to put it mildly. Maybe you don’t have to deal with much in this area, but if you’re unhappy at these times, taking care of your kids is no picnic.

You can talk to your primary doctor or a specialist about what you can do if you struggle to take care of your kids during these times. They might recommend some different ways to handle the physical issues. Again, if you’re a coparent, you might have to rely on the other person to help as well.

PTSD

Many people have PTSD. It does not just apply to fathers, mothers, or anyone else. There are also all kinds of things that cause it.

You might develop PTSD if you are a combat veteran. Maybe you were in a previous relationship with someone who abused you mentally, verbally, or physically. A car wreck might do it, or perhaps you had a traumatic childhood that you can’t seem to get past.

It’s hard to live with PTSD at any time, but it’s an even bigger problem if you have kids. This is another situation where you will probably have to seek help. You can talk to a psychiatrist about what’s bothering you.

They may be able to prescribe you medication, or perhaps just talking will help. The psychiatrist might want you to try both.

You can live with PTSD, but if you have kids, you need to try and get it under control for their sake. Hopefully, you can find a way to do that.

Monetary Problems

Whether you coparent or you’re trying to raise kids on their own, money is a big issue for moms, just like it is for everyone. If you don’t have enough money to get everything your kids need, including food, school supplies, medicine, and so forth, you will need to figure out some viable options.

You might try to move up from your current job to one that pays a little bit better. You may try to pursue higher education. A college degree often means more money, though you’ll have to find a way to go to school while still taking care of the kids.

You can look into state and federal government assistance programs, too. The might vital thing is that you need to keep your kids from going hungry.

Depression

Depression is very tough to get past. You might feel like you have some depressive tendencies, but you will not know for sure until you see both a doctor and psychiatrist.

Some moms experience depression so badly that they can barely get out of bed. That’s an awful place to be just for yourself, but if you have kids you need to care for, that complicates matters significantly.

Medication might be the answer. There are all kinds of meds that doctors prescribe now that can help individuals who experience depression.

It’s not the kind of thing that you can just medicate, and then it disappears. Often, if you have it, you deal with it for your whole life. Much like with many other medical conditions, you’ll need to try to reach a place where you can care both for your kids and yourself.

There are many more problems that a mother might have that can make child-rearing difficult. You’re bound to run into some at some point, even if the issues are not any of the ones we mentioned. If you feel overwhelmed, know that there’s no shame in asking for help or seeking childcare services.

You need to be a pretty selfless person to be a parent, though. It takes inner strength to put your kids before yourself sometimes, but most mothers find they have some real resilience when the chips are down.